First, we need to understand that most of the time our negative feelings, including anxiety, fear, and low self-esteem, are rooted in our brains due to a wrong self-image. Secondly, building good relationships with other people can greatly reduce stress and anxiety in our life. In fact, improving our social support is linked to better mental health in general. Fighting social anxiety has to start from the inside first. It’s about self-awareness. We need to be aware of our emotions and thoughts in order to be able manage and control them. And this concludes the basics of Emotional Intelligence. Social anxiety is most likely caused by low self-confidence. The best way to defeat your fear is to face it. When I get anxious about anything I always ask myself “what is the worst that could possibly happen?” Then I keep analysing the answer and usually I come to the conclusion of “So what? It’s not the end of the world.” Unfortunately, one of the consequences of avoiding social situations is that you never have the opportunity to build up your confidence interacting with others, and develop strong communication skills that would increase the chance for successful relationships. Practice will increase your confidence and improve your communication skills. So my advice is to be willing to try and learn by practicing. To summarize: Self-awareness, self-confidence, and practice
My ongoing struggle is the very poor awareness that we have in Egypt regarding communication skills and emotional intelligence. People often underestimate its importance and impact in our daily interactions. I’m having a hard time raising awareness on how putting just a little effort in our ways of communication could save us a lot of trouble every single day. People don’t realize the enormous change that could happen in their professional and personal lives if they learn these skills. They don’t understand why they need to take a communication course. It’s so funny that everybody is suffering and complaining from the mistreatments they receive or the continuous arguing and miss-understandings, but yet they are unable to recognize the root of the problem.
Emotional intelligence is not something that you know about, it’s the awareness that you develop when you actually practice. It doesn’t make it difficult to trust people; on the contrary, it will help you understand yourself and others so that you could select the right people to trust. It also helps you to draw boundaries with less trustworthy people.
On the professional level, my proudest achievement is taking a leap of faith, resigning from employment life and starting to pursue my passion in conducting courses about communication skills and emotional intelligence. On the personal level, my proudest achievement is impacting other people’s lives positively. Seeing people (especially women) reconciling with themselves and the world around them, changing their lives, and fulfilling their dreams is absolutely priceless. And then they start doing the same with others… it is a beautiful chain that I’ll always be proud of.
I’ve also handled other stars like Nahed El Sebai, Marwan Hamed, Hadi Elbagouri, and Mohamed Hefzy. I’ll always be very grateful for this adventure in my life. I had a lot of fun, I travelled with celebrities, attended movie festivals, organized photo-shoots, met so many people and made lots of friendships, but I must say it was very hectic and stressful. It was a very challenging experience but also very rewarding and enriching. The big challenge was to gain their trust and to prove my reliability, which usually happens when you prove your full dedication, sincerity, and good intentions. People may think that celebrities are different from us, when in fact they are also regular human beings. They look for someone to contain and understand them, and of course someone who’s emotionally intelligent enough not to push the wrong buttons. So by understanding each client’s mentality and personality, I was able to find “the entry”, gain their trust and build some bridges through which we communicated and had a good relationship. For example, to some celebrities appreciating the “human being” in them more than the “celebrity” was a major key. I really enjoyed that part of my life, and cherish the friendships that I gained through this job.
In the early 90’s, when I travelled to study in the USA. Back then, there was no satellite; internet and computer access were very limited. I was 16 years old and totally on my own with my broken English, so I had to depend on observing body languages, facial expressions, eye contact, and the tone of voice of people speaking to me in order to manage daily communication. When I returned to Egypt and studied Executive Management at AUC “Communication and Emotional Intelligence” was a big chunk of it. Furthermore, all throughout my life I’ve had people approaching me asking about how to network, or how to have good relationships, the best way to communicate a certain massage…etc. I’ve always got “You are so easy to talk to” and “you light up in social gatherings” comments, which made me think “why is it so easy to me and not to them?” All these incidents helped me to see the importance of good communication.
I’m a people person who’s fascinated with human behaviour and the art of communication and emotional intelligence. I’ve studied French literature and Mass Communication in the USA, returned to Egypt, and worked in the media and production world for more than 12 years, before working in the Communication and Public Relations field. Currently, I’m teaching Communications Skills and Emotional Intelligence courses. I find a great pleasure in empowering people to achieve their full potential in order to lead happier, and more fulfilling lives. After all, I believe that 90% of our problems could be solved if we master communication skills and develop our emotional intelligence.
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